August 26th, 2005
macho stuff
Sexy. Toned. Daring.
Let me pave the way by revealing the present masculine world. Other than hot women, bottomless beers, and basketball games, being one of the toughest guy in town becomes one of the main interests of young men nowadays. There are some boys out there who earnestly needs attention from girls so they relentlessly act like an ogre--- rude, arrogant, irresponsible. Some men do this by cracking jokes anytime, or anywhere for their "women" to feel at ease with them. To be different, some proudly set out their styles in public, out-of-this-world, so weird, but still enjoy it no matter how shameful they look. Some men flaunts their marvelous cars, some just brag their skills in guitars. Some even resort to gangs to be "in" and wear the hairstyles women praise as "astig". There are also some men who prefer to look violent, outrageous, "rockers" who seem to kick asses anytime of the day. Others stays in their discreet seclusion, still going on something that's too old yet still innocent grooming and outfit. But some men just stay and lock their rooms if they have nothing to boast: filling their private room with private manly secrets.
Different styles, manifold strategies. Despite the easy-going lifestyle of men, men are getting more and more conscious in their looks nowadays. According to Jerry Kennard, a doctor and psychologist of AskMen.com, men are catching up with women in their dissatisfaction over body shape though men's body image is still less negative than women (but underweight men experience most problems). Kennard also relates that men and women share the same problem in the relationship between body dissatisfaction and low self-esteem; though men are most likely to use anabolic steroids in their quest for greater muscle mass, and the fact that gay men are most likely to experience poor body image, they usually engage in unhealthy eating. At the end of the day, there is very little men can do about their height, but body shape, posture, general health and fitness can all be enhanced and contribute towards a healthy lifestyle and attractiveness.
But how do real men presently think?
"In the present world where technology is fast-rising at its peak, people around the world are getting more and more conscious in the way they look or the way they portray themselves towards other people. Looks matter. Despite the busy schedule, chaotic routines, and head-cracking deadlines, people think some alternatives or other ways to fit their schedules to what they know would make them happy and confident or anything that would fit their lifestyle," shared Dan, a 20 year-old gym buddy of mine.
But man, how much is too much?Workout, food supplements, dumbells, diet, and sets are one of the common things everybody hears when entering the always crowded gym. To achieve the aspired looks and size, both men and women resort to getting fit by engaging in workout sessions (despite their busy schedule) and proper diet (making them yearn for their favorite dish). The desperate ones, accomplish their mission by giving up their relationship with their boyfriends or girlfriends to concentrate well. Some male students even afford the consequence of missing their classes just to attend workout sessions. And this is what my topic is all about: the "excessive", endless desire of a sexier and firmer body which turns into another dillema of psychological illness--- bigorexia.
Bigorexia as defined by Jerry Kennard
Reverse Anorexia
Being preoccupied with muscle development may involve a disturbance in body image similar to anorexia. Bigorexia (muscular dysmorphia) is now affecting hundreds of thousands of men. For some men muscle development is such a complete preoccupation that they will miss important events, continue training through pain or broken bones, even lose their job rather than interrupt their physical development schedule. Curiously, these same men are not in love with their bodies. Despite a well developed physique they are unlikely to show it off and will shy away from situations that expose their bodies.
The term 'muscle dysmorphia' was coined in 1997 to describe this new form of disorder. Other people refer to the condition as 'reverse anorexia', and now more commonly 'bigorexia'. The causes are not known but two key ideas revolve around bigorexia as a form of obsessive compulsive behavior and secondly, the effect of the media putting the same type of pressure on men to conform to an ideal shape as has been the case with women for years.
The main characteristic of bigorexia is the thought that no matter how hard you try your body is never muscular enough.
Anorexia and bulimia are still fairly uncommon in men but young men are most prone.
The condition is recognized as more common with men although some women body builders have also been reported with similar symptoms. Most men with bigorexia are weight lifters, but this does not mean that most weight lifters are bigorexic. Compared to normal weightlifters who report spending up to 40 minutes a day thinking about body development, men with bigorexia report being preoccupied 5 or more hours a day thinking their bodies are under-developed.
With the increase in gymnasium provision and attendance there is some speculation that this alone accounts for increased awareness of physical imperfection in men and a quest to attain the perfect body. Conservative estimates put bigorexia as affecting hundreds of thousands of men.
Typical Features of Bigorexia
mirror checking.
Bigorexic men check themselves up to 12 times a day. This compares to roughly 3 times a day with other weight lifters. social & work events: important social events like birthdays, meeting friends, keeping appointments etc are overlooked because they interrupt the training schedule. Working hours may be seen as too long and some men have lost their jobs because they spend too long training during break periods.
Relating with Dan, the typical feature which is mentioed above is really true.
"Talagang nangyayari sa akin 'yan. Actually, halos lahat naman 'ata sa gym, ganyan parati ang nagiging attitude. Yung iba pa nga, nagpopose pa, as if modelo sila or kunwari parang body builder. Iba-iba yung ginagawa nilang pose. Yung iba namang baguhan, naweweirdohan. Pero masasanay ka rin naman e. Tulad ko, natatawa ako dati pag nakakita ako ng mga kasamahan kong akala mo, sira-ulo kasi kung anu-anong posing ang ginagawa. Pero natural lang iyun, I think. Kaya nga kung mapapansin mo, kaunti lang yung mga gym na walang wide mirror because the tendency kasi talaga sa mga nagwowork-out, yung every move na nagagawa nila sa gym, gusto nilang makita to inspire them more. Not knowing that that excessive attitude may lead to self-addiction."
diet:
Kennard added that very strict diets are important. Bigorexics will rarely eat at another person's house or at a restaurant because they are unable to control the dietary balance or know exactly what has gone into food preparation. It has been known for men to develop eating disorders such as bulimia.
In the case of Dan, the diet is so strict. Dan has to eat somewhere apart from his ffriends who prefer Jollibee or McDo meals. "Kapag kainan na talaga, especially lunch time, I eat alone kasi walang gustong sumama sa akin. To tell you frankly, I'm into diet even now, though ganito lang yung katawan ko. I just don't know the real reason. Kasi eversince I stepped sa gym, there's something trhat tells me to have a simple diet, no fatty food, justv stick to vegetables and fruits. The weird thing, it's as if there's nothing really changed with the way I look than before though I know within myself na meron nga naman talagang nagbago kahit papaano. Basta, I just woke up one day na nagigive-up ko na lahat, I even broke up with my girlfriend kasi hindi n'ya maintindiahan why I should've to gain mass and achieve a leaner looks. Yung masama pa dun, minsan pag may inuman kami, of course natural lang naman yun sa magbabakada, I always miss our drinking session kasi I have to go to the gym pa, and do the exercises needed listed in my program. Kaya medyo nanghihinayang man ako dahil I can't be with them na naman, wala akong magagawa kasi I don't want to feel guilty. And yun pa pala, everytime I skip a work out session, I usually hate myslef kung bakit pinili ko pang uminom and be with my friends kaysa mag-workout. Naka-gain pa tuloy ako ng extra calories."
measuring up:
bigorexic men constantly compare their own physique with that of other men.
Invariably their perceptions are incorrect. Even when observing men of equal physique they will judge themselves as smaller.
"Wala ring oras na hindi ko nakukumpara yung sarili ko sa iba. Siguro nga, it's just one of the manifestations of insecurity. Kapag nanonood naman ako ng television, nagtataka na yung nanay ko kung bakit lagi nalang dieting programs yung napapanood ko. Every morning din, especially when I skipped a meal before that day, I never forget to measure how much fatty skins in my belly was lost."
drugs:
the use of anabolic steroids is common amongst bigorexics. Men continue using steroids despite experiencing side effects such as increased aggression, acne, breast enlargement, impotence, baldness, impotence and testicular shrinkage.
Dan even confessed that using drugs or steroid somehow comes to his mind but he never tried it because he can no longer afford the price. "I think, isang turok ata nun, P800-1, 500, depende. Yung iba naman, hindi naman talga habol yung paglaki ng katawan nila by just using it. Sopme expert kasi nagsasabi na it can also stimulate your mind and physical capacities especially yung endurance mo, halimbawa, sasalin ka sa paligsahan, marathon. Kahit pa'no raw, nakakatulong din 'yun para nga mas tatagal ka especially kapag pangmalayuan yung laban."
"But if given the chance na makabili nga nun, siguro, ita-try ko lang once para lang ma-fulfill yung curiosity ko about that steroid stuff. Okey lang naman daw yun basta hindi ka lanmg masobrahan e. Pero siyempre, testing lang. Mahirap na baka kung ano na mangyari sa akin e."
fat:
men with bigorexia typically worry about the percentage of body fat they carry rather than being overweight.
"There's no doubt na hindi 'to talaga nangyayari. Kapag nasa gym ka kasi, although nag-eenjoy ka sa ginagawa mo, siyempre, nahihirapan ka rin tsaka ang dami mo ring nasasacrifice talga kaya everytime na kumakain ka ng halimbawa, cake, hindi talaga pupwedeng hindi mo alamin kung ano or ilan yung calories or fat ng kinakain mo. Mas nagiging open ka sa nutritional value pero yun nga lang, nagiging addictive ka na sa ganung attitude na at first iisipin mong okey lang, but then, hindi na pala kasi nadedeprive mo na yung sarili mo sa enjoyment na maibibigay ng kinakain mo."
Psychological Factors:
Unlike many body builders who enjoy the opportunity to show their physique in public bigorexics do not. Many will hide away for days at a time because of embarrassment about their body shape. Research undertaken by Pope and others in 2000 found that one man avoided sex with his wife in case it used up energy he could apply to body building.
Typically, men with bigorexia have a low self esteem. Many report having been teased at school about their physique leading to a focus on 'making good'. However, the attempt to catch up is never achieved and results in a poor sense of self and feelings of emptiness. Studies by Olivardia and others in 2000 also found that 29 per cent of men with bigorexia had a history of anxiety disorder and 59 per cent exhibited some other form of mood disorder.
Treatment Options
At the time of writing no systematic studies have been produced to compare the effectiveness of one treatment over another, either individually or in combination. A particular problem with the condition is that, rather like anorexics, men rarely see themselves as having a problem and are unlikely to come forward for treatment. The condition itself occurs partly as a response to feelings of depression and lack of self-esteem so coming forward for treatment is admitting defeat.
Where men have come forward a combination of educational and psychotherapeutic techniques have begun to show promising results. Cognitive-behavioral techniques place an emphasis on identifying and changing patterns of thinking towards more realistic and achievable goals. Future treatment packages may well be informed by such approaches but more systematic studies are now required.
Men's Body Shape
What they mean and how to modify them
It has always been assumed that, compared with women, men have a much easier time of it when it comes to their bodies. Even in many male magazines the emphasis is still on the perfectly formed female body rather than the man. The critics often point out that the stereotype of, 'men look and women are looked at', are continually reinforced as a result.
More recently research has indicated a change in the way men, and women, are starting to view the male physique. One psychological investigation in the UK found that the average man is feeling a bit intimidated by the images surrounding them. Researchers said the proliferation of male pin-ups advertising products from underwear to aftershave, in the same way that female models have been used for decades, was making ordinary men feel inferior and uncomfortable about their bodies.
The study found that the emphasis on the muscular body had originated in the gay community and transferred into the mainstream over the last 10 years. Women were now being invited to look on men purely for their physical attributes as part of an equally "lookist" or superficial consumer culture. More gay men said they felt the pressure to conform with the images. Others said they believed women did not place as much importance on physical attraction as men.
Three body shapes
Your body shape will basically fall into one of these three categories:
1. Ectomorph: characterised as tall and slim/thin.
2. Endomorph: rounded and with a generous waist size.
3. Mesomorph: muscular and athletic looking.
There was a time when personality was thought to be associated with body shape. Ectomorphs were considered to be quietand morose individuals, endomorphs rather jolly, and mesomorphs a bit on the crude and vulgar side. Such characteristics figure strongly in the books by Charles Dickens. Of course if looked for these traits can be seen in such individuals but then again they can be seen in all other body shapes as well. Not surprisingly this simple association of body shape with personality type has long been viewed with scepticism at best.
Can body shape be changed?
Dissatisfaction with body shape is one of the main reasons men vary their lifestyle. Usually this involves diet change and exercise but increasingly may involve cosmetic surgery. Pectoral implants, liposuction and jaw enhancements are becoming more commonplace. For those more interested in lifestyle change the activities you choose will have some effect on your morphology (morph = shape).
The slim look
Aerobic exercises that involve all the muscle groups such as running, yoga and swimming are useful. Employing a steady rate of exercise and avoiding rapid bursts of activity are thought to be important.
The muscular look
Isolating each muscle group in turn and operating on a principle of short explosive bursts of activity is a basic principle. Weight bearing exercises and repeated cycles within a given muscle group are necessary - as is relaxating after normally no more than seven repetitions.
The well rounded look
Do neither of the above. Eat too much and exercise as little as possible.
As men get older their metabolism slows down. Fat likes to gather around the belly of men and whilst it deposits easily it can be incredibly hard to shift. The middle age spread can be tackled with a sensible mix of exercise and healthy eating. Over a period of time most men will see fairly dramatic improvements particularly if they also concentrate on posture.
Differences between men and women
For women, body fat is the critical issue. For men both fat and muscle tend to be equally important. For a thin man it is quite possible to be too thin and too fat at the same time in the sense that he has both less muscle and more fat than he would like. As a result of the motivation to reduce fat and increase muscle men's weight-change strategies are not always as healthy as they might be (steroid use and other muscle enhancers for example).
INSIDE
To further widen my idea about the illness, I got a chance to interview one of my gym buddies, a 20 year old buff who is until now suffers from a mental illness called bigorexia.
Dan told me that his classmate introduced him once to go to gym to achieve a little muscle. "Bale sobrang payat ko kasi talaga dati. Sabi nga ng mga kakilala ng parents ko, baka di raw ako pinapakain nina mommy at daddy kasi sobrang payat ko talaga. Kaya when one of my friends ask me if I want to go with him in the gym, then I said I'll just try if it will work for me. From then on, kahit ako lang mag-isa pumupunta dito sa gym, I'm eager na kasi medyo marami na rin akong mga kakilala dito."
The feeling of perspiring makes Dan go on to work out. "Iba kasi talaga e. Kapag pinagpawisan na ako, talagang tuluy-tuloy na. Nawawala na yung antok ko, and the awkward thing is that, though you're already tired enough, you're still on the go to continue. Then pagdating ko nalang sa bahay, I just rest for 10 minutes then eat something and go to sleep. Iba talaga yung pakiramdam. You feel more relaxed, you feel so strong talaga the day after. Another thing that I really like in work out, medyo nagkalaman na nga ako. Actually my mom said that I should avoid na raw magbuhat ng mabibigat kasi baka hindi na raw ako tumangkad. Pero I explain naman to her that wala namang connection yungheight sa weight lifting."
First time does'nt really gives the last impression. "Kasi the very first day that I wento to gym, sobrang sakit ng katawan ko kinabukasan. I really suffered a lot. PAgkagising ko nng umaga, hindi ko na mataas yung kamay ko pati yung katawan ko, hindi ko amitayo. Seems like bago akong circumcise sa buong katawan. Nothing shpould be touched except my hair. Kulang na lang magpasubo ako. Sobrang sakit talga, kaya isinumpa ko na hindi na talaga ako babalik. But then, I met ulit yung kaklase ko, and then tinanong n'ya ko kung kamusta raw at kung gusto ko pang bumalik. Ipinagtataka ko, pa'no ako nakabalik. Siguro, determination lang tsaka disiplina."
Dan also shared that aside from influencing his brother, he also influenced his other friends and three classmates. "Ngayon, medyo dumami na yung nabiktima ko. (laughs) And by the time na magkita kami ng iba kong kaibigan na matagal ko nang hindi nami-meety, medyo nagugulat sila kasi medyo lumaki na ako. Actually, yung iba sa mga kaklase ko, they just want a slim abs especially yung mga babae, yung mga lalake naman, they dream of having a semi-ripped abs."
"It was only in Magandang Gabi Bayan that I realized and finally discovered that baka nga I'm already suffering from that bigorexia stuff. I was so amazed na lahat ng sintomas, or kung hindi man lahat ng sintomas na nasabi e medyo meron ako. So parang sabi ko, oo nga no? Dun, doon ko narealize na baka psychologically ill na nga ako. Kasi lahat na lang talaga ng kinakain ko, tinitingnan ko yung Nutritional Value, mapa-noodles or canned food man 'yan. Kapag naman streetfood yung nakakain ko, soemtimes, I just blurt out to somebody na nagtitinda ng food kung nakakataba na yun or what. Kaya 'yun, medyo natangay ako sa issue. Naka-relate din ako sa ibang ininterview doon na nagsa-suffer nga sa bigorexia na komong nasisisra na rin daw yung relationship nila with their families and with their friends dahil gym na lang parati yung inaatupag."
After watching the episode of Magandang Gabi Bayan, DAn started to worry about his attitude towards going to gym. "After talaga noong mapanood ko yung sa Magandang Gabi Bayan, I started a research sa library and internet if there's really such thing as bigorexia. And 'yun, nagulat ako. I never thought that it was really rampant, common nga raw sa mga lalaki, pero meron ding ganoong naitalang cases sa mga babae. One thing din na nakapagpagulat sa 'kin is nung sinabi doon yng mga sintomas na expected ko na kung anong nandoon. Iyon nga, I finally found out na may bigorexia nga ako."
But how do Dan and other victims of bigorexia treat themselves? "Well, it's a personal problem needing a personal treatment. Dahil usually pschological lang yung epekto sa 'kin, ngayon, I see to it na medyo ini-enjoy ko na yung pagpunta-puta ko dito. Hindi na rin ako masyadong nagiging conscious sa pagda-diet kasi narealize ko nga na katamtaman na rin yung laki ng katawan ko, kumbaga, fini-furnish ko na lang tsaka mini-maintain to achieve the look na gusto ko. Well, it's all about personal satisfaction naman e. Wala namang masama kung gusto mong ibahin yung image mo as long as dapat ini-enjoy mo lang talaga dapat tsaka always stick to what should be prioritized."
When asked if he has something to regret, he just answered, "Regrets? Wala naman siguro akong regrets kasi ginusto ko 'to e. And to think, this is for me naman e. Actually, I feel happoy kasi ganito na yung katawan ko unlike before na kulang nalang e lagyan ng string para maging flagpole. Basta dapat i-set mo lang talga muna yung priorities para mas maenjoy mo yung outcome ng pagsisikap mo. Another thing, dapat ding isipin na giangawa ko 'to not just for em but also to serve as an inspiration to other people that instead of living their lives with vices, drugs, or whatever that's useless and can do harm for them, then why not try going to gym if they got time."